I’m astounded by the depths of the lies that we integrate about ourselves. And not only do we perpetuate those lies through our behavior, we internalize them and we don’t even recognize that they are lies.

Now, I’m intentionally using this word lie because it is provocative. Nobody likes to be called a liar. And truthfully, I don’t think most people lie intentionally.

But I’ve taken this new perspective recently, that people-pleasing, performing, producing, acting out our conditioning, are all just sophisticated and nuanced forms of lying.

And the reason we’re doing that is because we’re afraid. Afraid that the truth of who we are will lead us to be abandoned.

Ironically, if expressing our truth leads to folks leaving, that is a pruning that is likely necessary for us to develop into whoever and whatever our soul has in store.

So I am boldly and courageously dedicating myself to clearing out all of the lies in my mind, body, and spirit. Some of them are easy to notice, like when I say I’ll do something when I don’t want to.

Some of them are far more subtle, nuanced, hidden in the shadows. And it requires immense attention to notice and address them.

My invitation to you is to take inventory of your life. Clear out the big ones first.

The hard conversation you know you need to have. The thing you’ve been afraid to bring up with your partner. Or even the tasks that you’ve left open, the ones you know doing will bring you peace and joy.

On some level, leaving those things undone is a form of dishonesty, a small abandonment of you.

This is the path toward love. This is the path toward wholeness. It begins with honesty—one truth at a time.